The moment after it has passed becomes a memory. Our whole life is a series of moments that become memories.

All our knowledge is summed up in our memories. It is from our memories that we construct our identity. From our memories we know who we are, who our parents are, where we live, what our name is, how to walk, write, drive a car, say hello, behave, cook, work… what happened to us and how we feel.

Sitting in an armchair and feeling sad is a memory, even if we can’t say why we feel sad, where it comes from, because it’s no longer a picture or a particular event attached to it.

The mind is constantly monitoring back and forth between the present and the past for conclusions,  and decide how to act, what to feel, what to think in the moment – even what pain signals to send us.

To simplify the work, the mind creates patterns, templates, selects data.

Because it is designed for survival and safety, it does not like sudden change or situations for which it has no template. Therefore we live our life with a set of templates, transalating every event  into a template, having the same experiences, and emotions.   

Our negative memories are the most important of all for the mind, because they are what keep us safe. They contain all the information that warns us of danger. It’s also where we store the behavioural templates that are responsible for our survival, because we survived the situation. The mind keeps a  record of these negative memories, handles them as priority, and visits them frequently for safety, so they form a much stronger neurological system than the positive memories do. We can easily end up with a sad life… 

The components recorded in negative memory, sensory data, stimuli such as colours, sounds, words, sights, looks, weather, pollen levels, etc. can become an alarm signal, and later a provoking factor, a trigger for a pain, seizure, symptom, behaviour, even if we no longer consciously remember these details. Panic attacks are often found to occur in similar settings or situations.

 Pain stored in a memory can be recreated in the present just by triggers, even without a conflict.

How can we get rid of it? 

We do not necessarily need to know all the factors. It is often enough to change the meaning and significance of the memory.

If a memory is no longer a bad memory, because we have transformed it, cleared it, the mind can then overlook it in the process of monitoring, so that the details stored in it become irrelevant, regardless whatever they were.

The deeper the conflict, the more painful the loss, the more unacceptable the injustice, – the higher the level of understanding and comprehension required to resolve the conflict from within. Resolving a conflict alone sometimes is too big a task, it is worth asking for help. Biology creates a response to every conflict if the stimulus hits the intensity of a critical level and there is no solution. The less the stress, the shorter the duration, the less we are left to ourselves, the fewer problems it will cause in our biology.

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